“Resentment is like drinking poison and waiting for the other person to die”
It’s totally true. When you hold on to anger or resentment, it vibrates through the cells of your body, impacting your health. Read more about how Unresolved Emotions Make our Immune System Vulnerable HERE. Fortunately, Essential Oils for Forgiveness have helped me heal on a mental, emotional and physical level.
What’s more, your anger doesn’t do anything to fix the situation. It just holds the negative energy in your field. And it can be hard to release. To forgive someone or something that might have intentionally mistreated or harmed you.
But in order to release that negative experience from your life, you truly have to forgive, not just the other person, but yourself.
That may surprise you – the need to forgive yourself. After all, you may wonder, “What role did I play in this situation? I was just the victim?” That may well be true.
You may have been too young, too sick or too naïve to make good choice for yourself. And that’s okay. You can forgive yourself for that. For trusting someone who was not worthy of your trust. For allowing someone into your life or your physical space who did not value your safety. For confiding in someone who betrayed your trust.
Believe me when I say, I truly understand how difficult it can be to forgive. I was betrayed on the deepest level by my own health practitioner, a colleague who attempted to steal my ideas and present them as his own. And perhaps like you, I had held on to that anger of being betrayed. But it never made me feel better and it almost always made me feel worse.
So, I started working on forgiveness. Not all at once, but gradually. I allowed myself to forgive both my colleague and myself in percentages, starting at 3% forgiveness and working up from there.
I realized that before I could forgive this other person, I needed to first forgive myself – for allowing this person into my life and allowing them to mistreat me. To quote Viktor E. Frankl in Man’s Search for Meaning:
“When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves.”
I could choose to harbor resentment and remain energetically stuck in that entanglement, or I could choose to forgive and let it go.
I gradually released my need to be a victim. And my need to be right, including the need for others to know any of the details involved with the situation.
Using Essential Oils for Forgiveness
Essential oils were an invaluable tool in helping me change myself and my response to this individual. You see, in Chinese medicine, negative emotions are believed to cause a disruption in the body’s energy system, often in connection to certain meridians and organs in the body. The word emotion includes the word motion, signifying that emotions are meant for us to experience and move through.
The combination of essential oils and certain tapping techniques allowed me to not only mentally forgive but to release the stored emotions from the key meridians and organs in the body. You can read more about the specific technique I used HERE.
I also incorporated the Hawaiian forgiveness ritual of Ho’oponopono that relies a few simple sentences to help you forgive, release and bless yourself and others. I was originally taught the ritual using these four sentences:
“I love you.
I forgive you.
I bless you.
I release you.”
But upon researching this article, found the following recommended language: “I am sorry Please forgive me I love you Thank you” This article does a nice job of explaining how these four sentences work like a sort of mantra or magic formula.
Essential Oils for Forgiveness
Essential oils, with their ability to travel directly to the amygdala, the emotional control center of the brain, can help to release any anger and foster feelings of forgiveness in and even more powerful way.
For example, essential oils can help amplify a forgiveness practice as you can breathe in the oils and release all past hurts and disappointment as you exhale. I have read that inhaling an oil through the nose, then forcefully exhaling through the mouth allows the body to best release emotions that no longer serve.
The following 3 blends are my personal favorites for forgiveness:
Liver Support™ allows us to release anger and suppressed negative memories that are often stored on very deep cellular level. Just place the bottle under your nose and breathe deeply, fully inhaling the oil for 3 – 7 breaths. It helps you breathe into and work through the emotion. You can also apply it around the ankles as this is often an area where we hold resistance to moving forward in life and block the ability to receive joy and pleasure. Start at the back of the ankle and apply under the ankle bone around to the front and back under the other ankle bone, all while allowing yourself to release challenging emotions.
Lung Support™ allows for the gentle release of emotional grief that so often accompanies growth. In order to grow, we have to leave behind old behavior and thought patterns and sometimes individuals, places and possessions. There is often a deep sense of loss and grief associated with the process of letting go. Lung Support helps us release our grief so often attached to negative experiences. You can inhale the oil the oil through the nose, letting the oxygen flow deeply into the lungs, then exhale or apply directly over the lungs.
Small Intestine Support™ helps support positive boundaries and confidence to assist in bringing a sense of peace to our lives. When you are struggling with negative emotions, it can be uplifting and help release and clear any residual negative emotions. I find it best to apply around the ears for emotion related issues. You can start on the bottom of the ear at the earlobes and gentle massage upward along the exterior of the ear, hitting many of the major reflexology points. This article and chart show specific points on the ears for specific issues.
Epilogue
The individual that hurt me had a pattern of hurting others as well which led to his recent removal from a position of power at the Nutritional Therapy Association. Some of the other individuals involved in the situation reached out to me this past weekend. They were still angry, hurt and seeking vindication. While I had complete compassion for their outrage, I was surprised to find that I no longer felt any of it in myself. I had been able to complete forgive not only this man but myself. Essential oils played such a critical role in my ability to release my anger, forgive myself and move through and out of this situation and I hope that this article helps you move forward as well.
Namaste!
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