I am occasionally asked if I sell essential oils for love and by that most people mean some kind of potion to attract or arouse the opposite sex.
To me, the word love encompasses so much more than romantic attraction. It expresses the way I feel about my family, my pets, my friends, some of my favorite activities, and, most importantly, myself.
Self-love and self-respect are the foundation upon which all relationships develop.
To me, this means that we need to be both discerning in how we let others treat us – eliminating any abusive relationships or behaviors – and receptive to positive, supportive and helpful relationships and experiences.
This is where essential oils really shine!
In helping you fortify your physical, mental and emotional boundaries, open your heart to amplify your joy, enthusiasm and capacity to receive affection and support.
In this blog, I share my favorite blends to support self-love and lay the groundwork to amplify your ability to receive love.
How Essential Oils Support Self Love
Essential oils can be powerful tools to help you amplify intention and support your ability to receive love and support. More specifically, essential oils are living energy with electrical properties, which are subject to our thoughts and feelings.
Their vibrations resonate with your organ tissues and regions of the brain in helpful ways, according to your wishes and mental directions. They also work in the limbic systems to help clear negative feelings and blocked emotions, thus eliminating the root causes of many self-limiting beliefs.
In his book “The Power of Prayer on Plants”, Researcher Franklin Loehr discovered that thoughts change the physical properties of the water by altering the bonding angles between oxygen and hydrogen atoms. Like water and plants, research shows that essential oils also respond to words, thoughts, and prayer and even amplify intent to move molecules of oils to where they can best serve to heal the body.
For example, when you apply an essential oil blend you can mentally direct it to go to wherever it is needed and affirm the outcome you desire. Just as your thoughts can amplify the effectiveness of the oils, essential oils can be used to amplify your intent on many levels, including the intent to relax, make time for yourself and your happiness and receive more love.
1. Balance the Heart
My favorite essential oil for self-love is Heart™: The heart integrates and balances the physical, emotional, and mental body, providing blood to every cell and every organ. It also serves as a complex information processing center, influencing brain function, the nervous system, hormonal system and most of the body’s major organs. When any part of the body isn’t functioning at an optimal level, the heart has to work harder. For example, when the body is in a state of stress, it needs more oxygen which increases the heart rate. The heart is our body’s reset button, but a state of constant stress can fatigue the heart and compromise our ability to reset, leading to inflammation, infections, toxicity and heart disease.
By returning the heart to balance, we support the cardiovascular and circulatory system; regenerate the structure of the heart and helping to reset the homeostatic mechanism for the entire body. Heart™ is formulated with powerful calming oils, including Jasmine, an oil found to be as calming as the anti-anxiety drug valium, according to a 2010 study. Jasmine also has a mildly sedative and calming effect allowing it to alleviate anxious thoughts, relieve stress and ease depression. Jasmine oil actually stimulates the brain, helping to uplift the mood, and promoting feelings of self-confidence and optimism.
Apply Heart™ over the heart (left side of chest) to balance the heart and support, integrate and reset all the systems of the body, including mental clarity, physical health and emotional balance. Heart™ blend also supports feelings of open-heartedness, expansiveness, receptivity while mitigating loneliness, sadness and grief.
2. Set Clear Boundaries
Your personal boundaries determine how you choose to show up in a relationship and how you allow yourself to be treated. Healthy boundaries ensure that your time, your energy and your mental, physical, and emotional health are valued and respected. They determine how you choose to behave and be treated in relationship and what you deem acceptable and unacceptable for both yourself and others.
Healthy boundaries can help you prioritize and manage your energy in a healthy way to ensure that your feelings are taken into consideration and your needs are met. Boundaries are critical to supporting your self-worth and value. Without clearly defined boundaries, others may take advantage of you because you haven’t set limits about how you expect to be treated. Clear boundaries also allow you to say no to individuals or opportunities that do not align with your values and priorities.
Poor boundaries can present as putting ourselves last on our “To Do” List, not valuing our own worth, or feeling that we somehow don’t deserve to take the time for self-care.
Your small intestine plays a critical role in the digestion process, absorbing and assimilating key nutrients while preventing harmful pathogens and toxins from entering the body. On an emotional level, the small intestine plays a similarly discerning role with emotions, helping to understand experiences and determine healthy and appropriate relationships and boundaries. It is also an area where we can hold deep childhood scars of rejection, abandonment or abuse; negative thoughts fueled by feelings of lack of self-worth, low self‐esteem, loneliness, neglect and anxieties about survival and success.
Small Intestine Support™ can support the healthy functioning of the small intestine as it sorts and transforms food, feelings and ideas into useful ingredients for the body/mind. It also helps correct imbalances where you are overly in tune with other’s feelings at the expense of your own.
Apply Small Intestine Support™ over the small intestine or pulse points to nourish and support a sense of harmony and belonging, balancing the emotional equilibrium and fostering clear boundaries that are supportive and nurturing to your physical, emotional, mental and spiritual health.
3. Release Anger to Receive Love
It can be challenging to receive love and positive emotions when you are struggling with emotions like anger. Anger can be harmful to your relationships, especially if you project your anger at others. Angry outbursts can elicit fear in others. Fear and love do not co-exist, so the more fear, the less love.
According to Chinese medicine, anger is stored in the liver. Liver Support™ helps you move through and release anger and negative emotions from the cells of the liver to promote optimal healing. The oils in this blend assist the body to recognize, work through and release the anger, fear, or frustration, including frequent irritation, impatience, resentment, being critical of yourself or others, control issues, an inability to express your feelings, feelings of not feeling heard, not feeling loved, not being recognized or appreciated, so they don’t overwhelm you.
Just place the bottle of Liver Support™ about an inch or two below the nose and deeply breathe in the oil to the count of six, then gentle exhale just as slowly. As you exhale, imagine exhaling any anxiety, fear or emotion that you wish to move through. Repeat this for 3 – 7 breaths. It is not uncommon to stop smelling the oil at some point during this process as that is often indicative of the body shifting. You can also apply Liver Support™ over the liver or around the ankles as this is often an area where we hold resistance to moving forward in life. Start at the back of the ankle and apply under the ankle bone around to the front and back under the other ankle bone, all while allowing yourself to release challenging emotions.
4. Let Go of Grief
Grief requires a lot of physical and emotional energy that alter the function of your brain and impact your ability to connect in relationships. Brain imaging research has shown how grief activates the stress response in your amygdala and the depresses the frontal lobe, which helps support aspects of executive function that play an important role in relationships. like self-control, self-expression and your ability to take interest in others. These brain scans show that loss, grief, and traumas can significantly impact your emotion and physical processes. Articulation and appropriate expression of feelings or desires may become difficult or exhausting.
Essential oils, like the Lung Support™ blend may help support the release of emotional grief to enhance breath and life energy. The lungs serve as a fundamental source of life energy –transporting oxygen from the atmosphere into the capillaries so they can oxygenate blood – as well as an important channel of elimination – releasing carbon dioxide from the bloodstream into the atmosphere. Feelings of grief, bereavement, regret, loss, remorse can obstruct ability of the lungs to accept and relinquish, impeding their function of “taking in” and “letting go”. Grief that remains unresolved can become chronic and create disharmony in the body, leading to shortness of breath, fatigue and feelings of melancholy.
Lung Support™ includes a powerful combination of essential oils, including bergamot that helps overcome grief and let go of negative experiences. Bergamot oil promotes self-love and self-worth, helping us process and release emotional pain, including the fear of not being good enough so we can open up to love, self-approval, joy and self-acceptance. Bergamot can help enhance our energy levels, boosting and uplifting the mood. Further, a 2011 study credited bergamot essential oil with reducing anxiety.
Apply Lung Support™ over the lungs to help release grief and negative emotions and deeply inhale love and joy, enhance relaxation and elevate your mood.
Featured Oils:
Ready to get started? Click the links below to order today:
- Heart™ available here
- Liver Support™ available here
- Lung Support™ available here
- Small Intestine Support™ available here
References:
- https://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/science/7881819/Smell-of-jasmine-as-calming-as-valium.html
- https://www.tc.columbia.edu/media/centers/lte-lab/peered-review-journals/2015/36433_2015_Maccallum_Galatzer_Levy_Bonanno.pdf
