How many of us have experienced a traumatic or abusive relationship?
A playground bully? An overbearing parent or boss? An unfaithful partner? A critical or competitive friend or colleague?
Clearing trauma and abuse with Essential Oils can help you heal and move on.
Trauma and abuse can come in many forms ranging from physical or verbal to mental and emotional. While the non-physical forms may feel more subtle, they can be equally, if not more, painful and traumatic, especially when inflicted by someone you love or trust.
It can be confusing and embarrassing. There is a lot of shame and guilt that are tied in with abusive relationships. You may wonder how someone who possesses so many wonderful qualities can also be such a monster.
You may start to doubt and blame yourself. Maybe it is something about you or your behavior that triggers them? That is often what they will tell you. That it is your fault. That it is because of something you are doing or not doing that they feel justified in showering you with mental, physical, emotional or verbal abuse.
And on some level, you accept that as your truth. That you are flawed and somehow deserve this. So you suffer on, often in silence, because you feel guilty and ashamed. And it would be an embarrassing reflection on you to share this with anyone.
I know this feeling all too well. For years, I allowed a colleague to verbally, mentally and emotionally abuse me. This individual could be brilliant, charismatic and warm, but with a very dark underbelly. Like many victims of abuse, they played out a victim pattern that vacillated between the role of victim, white knight savior and predator. It was a hard one to escape.
Even after extricating myself from that relationship, the fear, trauma and shame lingered on because I had not cleared the energetic residue of that relationship. It is not uncommon for an interference field of trauma to remain in our thought patterns, negatively impacting your energy field and your health.
One of the key reasons that essential oils work so well is that they can, in essence, help to erase and rewrite emotional memories and the associated thought patterns.
When we inhale essential oils, the odor molecules travel through the nasal cavity and trigger electrical impulses to the olfactory which then transmits the impulses to the amygdala, the part of the brain where emotional memories are stored.
Our sense of smell links directly to emotional states and behaviors often stored since childhood. In fact, of the five physical senses, smell is the only one that is directly linked to the limbic lobe of the brain – our emotional control center. Anxiety, depression, fear, anger, and joy all physically originate from this region. All other physical senses are routed through the thalamus, which acts as the switchboard for the brain, passing stimuli onto the cerebral cortex, the conscious thought center, and other parts of the brain.
This strong connection between smell and the emotional center of the brain may explain why a particular smell can evoke powerful memories and emotions. For example, the smell of wet dew on grass immediately reminds me of happy childhood memories at summer camp or mothballs transports me back in time to my grandparent’s apartment building in Brooklyn.
Essential oils enable us to access stored or forgotten memories and suppressed emotions so that we can acknowledge and integrate or release them. The word “emotions” can translate as “energy-in-motion.” Emotion is the experience of energy moving though our bodies. This emotional energy actually works at a higher speed than thought. Thought and images can take seconds or minutes to evoke a memory while smell can evoke a memory in milliseconds. Forgotten memories and suppressed emotions can wreak havoc in our lives; often being the unsourced causes of depression, anxiety and fears. Essential oils can help us release these emotions wherever they are stored in the body or energy field.
To clear my trauma, I decide to drink my own “Kool Aid” and used the following protocol with Essential Oils:
Release the Trauma – Liver Support™ blend is a wonderful tool for releasing trauma from your field. To use it in this manner, you will take a deep breath then slowly inhale and exhale the oil for between 3 – 7 breaths. You will know that the oil is working when you stop smelling it. You then need to share with a trusted friend, the mirror, even the moon, the top 3 negative repetitive thought patterns that you would like to release. For me, it was the feeling of fear and guilt that my abusive relationship triggered. The friend who helped me with this exercise wisely encouraged me to dig deeper and feel back into when I might have felt that fear before. I recalled an incident shortly after college where I was crashing at an acquaintance’s house and woke up in the middle of the night to find him fondling me in my sleep. When I shared the incident with a trusted friend, she advised me to just be polite and nice about it. Instead of validating my experience, her dismissal contributed to my shame around the situation and set up a pattern of poor boundaries for me. Luckily, breathing into the oils and allowing my grief, sorrow and fear to flow out as tears helped to clear both the recent and long standing abuse pattern. You can carry the blend with you and inhale as often as needed for as long as is needed until the trauma starts to clear. Bladder Support™ is another excellent blend for releasing trauma, especially any sexually related trauma.
Set Clear Boundaries – As the expression goes, it takes two to tango. Abuse can only happen if we are an energetic match and allow it. This was a difficult concept for me to accept. On a mental level, it was very hard for me to accept that I had somehow invited this abuse and trauma into my life. But, the truth is, I had terrible emotional boundaries, which left me wide open for abuse both on the interpersonal and gut level, which might explain recurring candida, leaky gut and parasites that have all cleared up since I cleaned up my boundaries. Energetically, I am no longer a match to abusive relationships or pathogens.
If you think about it, our small intestine is the boundary center of our body, absorbing and assimilating key nutrients while preventing harmful pathogens and toxins from entering the body. On an emotional level, the small intestine plays a similarly discerning role with emotions, helping to understand experiences and determine healthy and appropriate relationships and boundaries. It is also an area where we can hold deep childhood scars of rejection, abandonment or abuse; negative thoughts fueled by feelings of lack of self-worth, low self‐esteem, loneliness, neglect and anxieties about survival and success. Vibrant Blue Oils Emotion Balance Small Intestine Support™ blend supports healthy boundaries, on both the emotional and physical level. To apply, rub 2- 3 drops around the belly button in a clockwise direction. It is also helpful to apply around the ears and over the heart.
Speak Your Truth – Feelings of shame often lie at the core of many health conditions, especially for women. In fact, studies have shown that negative emotions actually weaken your body, and shame has the most devastating effect. This makes sense to me because if you don’t speak your truth due to shame or embarrassment, you don’t release the underlying emotions and they then continue to cause harm in the body. To help release any shame and overcome feelings of humiliation, inhibition or denial, apply a few drops of Thyroid Support™ over the front of the neck or around the ears. The thyroid relates emotionally to self-expression and the struggle to communicate. This includes speaking up for ourselves as well as not suppressing our truth, failing to ask for what we want and or feeling we do not have the right to ask for what we want. An inability to speak one’s truth – including difficulty in self-expression, feeling suppressed or shut down in creative endeavors or “swallowing” or “stifling” your words to keep the peace or win people’s approval — will often cause physical problems in the thyroid, mouth, and neck area around the throat.
I hope that these blends help you overcome abusive and traumatic relationships or experiences. Please feel free to share your experience below in the comments.
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