It has always been challenging for me to receive love.
When someone compliments me or acknowledges an achievement, I downplay or diminish it. I was raised to humble and always felt uncomfortable accepting praise, even when it was merited.
This past weekend, I got the chance to practice my ability to receive love, praise and even an award bestowed upon me by a community of my health and wellness colleagues, including many accomplished health advocates whom I greatly admire, like Dave Asprey, J.J. Virgin, Joseph Mercola and Terry Wahls.
To quote JJ Virgin, “Beside your biggest wound lies your greatest gift.”
The death of my 12-year-old son Max in car accident last August 27, 2018 has been so devastating that I had no choice but to allow myself to receive help and support. My friend Andrea Nakayama, another dynamic health entrepreneur who allowed a personal loss to catapult her career, describes this inability to receive as “I can carry the baby AND the groceries”, never asking for or accepting help. And that was how I navigated my life for the first 49 years. I handled it all and it was a point of pride. I thought it was considered weak to ask for help and I did not want to be perceived as weak.
What I did not realize was that it is actually a source of strength to allow those who love you to help and support you. Allowing yourself to receive love, kindness and accolades does not diminish your self-worth, it expands it. And amplifies your ability to help and support others.
How Essential Oils Support Receiving Love
Essential oils can be powerful tools to help you amplify intention and support your ability to receive love and support. More specifically, essential oils are living energy with electrical properties, which are subject to our thoughts and feelings.
Their vibrations resonate with your organ tissues and regions of the brain in helpful ways, according to your wishes and mental directions. They also work in the limbic systems to help clear negative feelings and blocked emotions, thus eliminating the root causes of many self-limiting beliefs.
In his book “The Power of Prayer on Plants”, Researcher Franklin Loehr discovered that thoughts change the physical properties of the water by altering the bonding angles between oxygen and hydrogen atoms. Like water and plants, research shows that essential oils also respond to words, thoughts, and prayer and even amplify intent to move molecules of oils to where they can best serve to heal the body.
For example, when you apply an essential oil blend you can mentally direct it to go to wherever it is needed and affirm the outcome you desire.
Just as your thoughts can amplify the effectiveness of the oils, essential oils can be used to amplify your intent on many levels, including the intent to receive more love.
3 Essential Oils for Receiving Love
As you take a deep breath and breathe in the following essential oil blends, try to breathe in the deep sense of worthiness and allow yourself to receive love. As you slowly exhale, allow your breath to carry out any patterns of low self-worth or self-limiting beliefs.
Your heart integrates and balances your physical, emotional, and mental bodies, providing blood to every cell and every organ. It also serves as a complex information processing center, influencing brain function, the nervous system, hormonal system and most of the body’s major organs. When any part of your body isn’t functioning at an optimal level, your heart has to work harder. For example, when your body is in a state of stress, it needs more oxygen which increases your heart rate. Your heart is our body’s reset button, but a state of constant stress can fatigue the heart and compromise our ability to reset, leading to inflammation, infections, toxicity and heart disease.
By returning your heart to balance, you support the cardiovascular and circulatory system; regenerate the structure of your heart and help reset the homeostatic mechanism for your entire body. Heart™ is formulated with powerful calming oils, including Jasmine, an oil found to be as calming as the anti-anxiety drug valium, according to a 2010 study. Jasmine also has a mildly sedative and calming effect allowing it to alleviate anxious thoughts, relieve stress and ease depression. Jasmine oil actually stimulates the brain, helping to uplift the mood, and promoting feelings of self-confidence and optimism.
Apply Heart™ over your heart (left side of chest) to balance the heart and support, integrate and reset all the systems of the body, including mental clarity, physical health and emotional balance. Heart™ blend also supports feelings of open-heartedness, expansiveness, receptivity while mitigating loneliness, sadness and grief.
Formulated to supports optimal energetic alignment. Uplift™ contains several calming and nourishing oils that assist in building self-esteem and returning a sense of joy so you might be in a better state to receive love. Uplift™ inspires hope in those who have temporarily lost their optimism and helps you to overcome your fear and reclaim your potential. When you have more courage to take on new things and/or change, you are better able to release old patterns that are no longer serving. For example, ylang ylang oil helps curb the negative thoughts associated with depression. A 2006 study found ylang ylang to help relieve depression and stress and promote calmness.
Apply Uplift™ to your vagal nerve (behind earlobe, on mastoid bone) over your heart, wrists, temples and forehead to help alleviate depression and promote feelings of strength, courage, and protection. Uplift™ can also help align your physical, mental and emotional energies of the body when massaged into the shoulders or the feet.
Rose™ is known to alleviate symptoms of depression, calm the nervous system, promote feelings of happiness and boost your mood. It is one of the best essential oils to use in your self-love practice. It has the highest frequency of any essential oil and immediately helps to wash away negative emotions or thought patterns. Rose™ oil is also considered an aphrodisiac and can help stimulate the libido of both men and women. Rose™ can be added to a bath, massaged into the skin or applied directly over the heart.
This award was presented by my friends Teddy and Ryan Sternagel, whose 6-year-old son Ryder has successfully battled neuroblastoma, a childhood cancer of the nervous system, for the past 5 years. Their touching tribute follows:
This is an award that Teddy and I are both honored and deeply moved to be presenting. It’s an award that has never been presented here before, but the circumstances of the past year dictated that it must.
The Overcomer Award is given to an individual who has faced a significant challenge in their personal life, but has still propelled their business forward.
This year’s recipient has faced what in our minds is the ultimate challenge. A challenge that we’re all too familiar with, and have come closer than most to facing, but still could not imagine what it would be like to actually go through.
This person lost a child. Their little boy. In a tragic car accident.
And while there’s no way to describe a manner in which to lose a child as preferable…
To go from having your son one moment, to him being gone from this life the next, is unfathomable.
And whereas most people would have crawled under a rock in such a situation, this person put themselves out there for all to see.
In the same way their business came from finding out how to improve their own health and wanting to tell others, this year’s winner has done the same with the most tragic of circumstances…
Educating herself on the best ways to get through something like this, leaning into the things that made her uncomfortable, embracing how much good still is present in her life, and sharing that journey with anyone that might need it.
Along with continuing to show up through it all. Show up for her other child, and for the countless people that benefit from her work in the health world.
As a result, her business has actually grown.
This is also a testament to what this community is really all about, and our love for this particular person.
Starting not only a fundraiser, but a concerted effort to promote her products to get her through the hardest time.
Tonight we acknowledge and honor not only this incredible woman, but also her amazing son Max.
Who had such big dreams for his life. Who was a voracious reader and devoured everything from Harry Potter to dystopian novels at the age of twelve.
Who had an incredible love of knowledge in general, and learning about everything from animals to mythology.
Who now gets to know all the answers to where his favorite myths came from, and all the other concepts he was pondering at such a young age.
So Max, tonight we are here to show our love and support to your mom. Who has somehow made it this far, and we know will go on to do amazing things in your memory and in your honor.
This award goes to… Jodi Cohen.
Ready to get started? Click the links below to order today: